Some see it as dreadful.
Some see it as enjoyable. I see it as a life given and directed by God.
Several years ago, God used II Corinthians 11 to show me that it is His plan for me to be single, because my focus can be fully on Him and serving Him without distraction.
I can spend as much time with God without immediate distractions in my home.
I can put my entire focus on Him whenever He wants to talk to me and I want to listen. (Yes, there are times that I don't want to listen.)
I still believe that He wants me to be single and know it's true, but sometimes I do dread it.
Not because I am missing out on something, but because I lack the connection with other people. My closest biological family members live an hour away.
The church I am a member of is mostly made up of children. With that said, there are a lot of married couples. In this church I am the only single, never married, 30-something, lady.
These circumstances could be discouraging because it means that, because I work outside of the home (and they don't), the other ladies are available for connecting with each other throughout the day.
I am available in the evenings. They aren't, because for most of them, that's the only time they get to see their husbands, and they are busy getting their children ready for bed. I can't connect with them during the time I am available.
These circumstances could be discouraging because a lot of what is taught in the church is about families and being a wife. I am neither a mother, nor a wife. Most of my friends there are one or both.
These circumstances could be discouraging for many other reasons that I will not list because, by now, you can probably come up with your own.
These circumstances could be seen as a blessing. While many wives and mothers have to search their busy days for five minutes to sit with God, I have seemingly unlimited time to spend with Him.
These circumstances could be seen as a blessing, because I don't have other people determining my schedule.
These circumstances could be seen as dreadful or a blessing, because I can drop what I am doing and help them out with babysitting or running Mom and one child to the ER or sitting with the children while Dad and Mom get out for a little while.
Am I saying that I am not happy where God has me? Am I saying that I wish it were different? Am I saying that this life is discouraging? Not at all!
This must be said before I move on...To become His child, you must be born of the Spirit (saved). We are all born physically and are His creation. That doesn't make us His children.
God promises in His Word that He will provide for His children. That means that what I HAVE or LACK today it EXACTLY where He wants me! I CAN be content in either situation!
Philippians 4 discusses this and includes two verses that are so often taken out of context. Paul is writing these words as he is moved by the Holy Spirit. He says he can do all things through Christ Who strengthens him and be content in any situation. He also tells the Philippines that God will supply their need as they have allowed Him to use them to supply for Paul's need.
Psalm 68:6 says that God sets the solitary (single) in families. Even though my biological family members are numerous and live far away, God has placed me in MANY families! I have more children than mother could ever give birth to!
I serve God Almighty! In my singleness! Because it is His plan for me today! It is His plan for me because it is where I am! If it wasn't His plan, it would not be taking place!
I am and can continue to be content only through Christ's help and strength!
Jump back to the Old Testament and look at the life of Joseph for a moment. He has some pretty rough circumstances to live with. He was Daddy's favorite, but his brothers hated him. They planned to kill him, but chose to sell him instead. They chose where he would live.
He did not choose his circumstances:
- In charge of all that belonged to Potipher, except his wife and food.
- Wrongly accused of rape and sent to jail.
- Spent much time in jail as the keeper of the prison and the prisoners.
- Interpreted dreams for two prisoners and only asked that they remember him. One was killed and the other forgot him...for TWO YEARS!
- Finally that man remembered Joseph and he was brought before Pharaoh to interpret his dreams. He was made second in command in Egypt!
- Joseph's brothers step back into his life after MANY years and he HELPS them!
Just like me and you, Joseph could be content because of God he served! He did not choose his circumstances, but he did choose to respond rightly and with God's help, to his circumstances! If even one response was different, most if not all of the people in that region would have died!
We ALL have different circumstances in life. Yours and mine are EXACTLY what we need to get us to God!
If you are single, if you are a wife, if you are a mother of a few or a lot , if you did not choose the circumstances of your life, if you did choose your circumstances, if you are reaping what you have sown, if you are reaping what others have sown, YOU CAN BE CONTENT IN CHRIST!
Sure, you can make yourself believe that you are content for a little while, but in Christ, you can be content with ANY circumstance that comes!
I will admit that there are times when I dread the path God has me on and dread being single, but I AM content with it because I have Christ! I could be missing out on the connection and relationships with other people, but I have the greatest relationship of all with God through Jesus Christ! Through that relationship, everything I need (good or bad) is supplied!
Do you know that kind of contentment? Do you have a restored relationship with God through Jesus Christ? Do you know God as He describes Himself in His Word (the Bible)? I urge you NOT to go to a person to find these things out. I URGE you to pick up a Bible and find out about God from Himself!
Guest posted by Lisa Langley.
A women who is : Single. Loves God. Love children. Loves Serving others.